Sexless & Dating in DC Episode Two: Jo-Elle's Story

Monday, February 29, 2016

Men make it hard sometimes.  Men can be so hard to read.  They have expectations for women.  I appreciate a fine brother who appreciates a women with beauty and brains.  But what happens when those attributes aren't enough? Meet Jo-Elle.  Jo-Elle is every guy's dream. I mean, who wouldn't want a woman in grad school working for the government? (shoot can I take your place?)  Well for Jo-Elle, despite being an all time MVP being sexless or as she would say traditional gets in the way. Let's check out Jo-Elle's story.

Why Is Jo-Elle Single?

This is a question I get asked all the time & honestly, I do not know why I’m single. I used to think I was ugly, too introverted and too nice. But I would say that I’m a bit old fashioned when it comes to dating/meeting guys. I prefer the guy to find me and not the other way around. But I guess that’s the reason why I am still single because there are different ways of getting someone’s attention in 2016, like Tinder (side face).

I’m always told that I am stuck in the wrong generation because I want things to be how they used to be. I would love for a guy to approach me, respectfully, and ask for my number and to take me out. Wishful thinking…… However, I am still trusting and believing in God that everything will happen in due time. Until then, I will laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, and remind myself that everything happens for a reason. 

Why Is Jo-Elle Sexless?

Ultimately, I am waiting for the right person, whom I will ultimately marry. Nowadays no one wants to wait and I admit it's hard, because once I tell a guy I want to wait, that’s usually the last time we see each other, let alone speak lol. It used to bother me, but I'm kinda used to it. In fact, I had a guy once tell me that he has to have sex with the person he’s dating and if he enjoys it, they would start dating. (pause, wait what) Regardless of anyone's philosophy I want to do things the right way for me. I’m going to remain to keep hope alive and wait for Mr. Right (if he is still out there).
Dating Experiences?

Hmmmm………so many experiences come to mind but two years ago, I met this guy who at first looked mean but eventually grew on me.  Daily we would speak in passing but one particular day he complimented on something I was wearing that day and offered lunch. And from there it's the pattern of small talk, exchange of numbers, chit chat and then finally we hung out.  Eventually, conversations turned into meeting the family and then the emotions.  He could really be the one, at least a thought. But literally in the blink of an eye, after a years worth of a relationship, like a single rain drop in the ocean he disappeared.  I mean literally stopped talking to me as if I never existed. 

After leaving it alone, the truth decided to hop on the train with me and revealed that everything I ever wanted in a guy was someone else's.   He denied it but who wouldn't.  We ended on that note; I was beyond heart broken. Oh well……life moves on and so did I. 

Dating in DC?

Dating in DC is tough.  I think there is so much to do and so many people to meet in DC that dating gets put on the back burner, not in all instances but most. People are trying to establish a career and basically live life before they want to think about dating. I can only speak from my experiences, but it seems that dating in DC doesn’t come until later, maybe early to mid-30s. Being as though I haven’t even reached 25 yet, I guess I’m in the “hooking up” age and not the “dating and settling down” age. I think I should move some place where things move a lot slower……I think that’s what I need. 

Jo-Elle's Advise?

The best advice that I can give and what I continue to tell myself is to live life and enjoy every moment. The right person will come but what you don’t want to happen is to waste your life either chasing that someone or moping around waiting for someone to find you. I’ve done that for a while and it’s not worth it. I refuse to waste anymore of my 20's for someone God planned to arrive later in my life. This is time to do what you love, to work on being a better you, to travel, and essentially do something that makes you happy. That person will come, and when they do, you’ll be glad they came when they did.

I look forward to taking my time doing things that I love to do. I also look forward to learning more about myself. 


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